Let’s start with the cold hard truth. Research indicates that only 8% of people achieve their New Year’s goals. If you want to be in that 8% this year here are some things to consider when making resolutions:
- Do you just say “I will start that next year”, to conveniently put it off and then next year arrives and it all seems a bit too hard? January isn’t the only time you can set a goal, you can start any time and the truth is that you won’t succeed if you are not ready to make a change; this is about your internal clock and not the calendar.
- Do you give up on your goals as soon as you lose track or make one mistake, in the belief that if it is not perfect, there is no point in doing it at all? Well that is handy isn’t it? Since perfection is not possible you have the perfect out every time! We are all imperfect and we all fail, we fail loads of times on the way to success. It is not because you are shameful, it is because you are human – just keep going. Success is usually built upon many failures which are lessons to help you achieve success.
- Some people fail to plan which in essence is planning to fail! What do you need? What preparation is required? Do you need to seek help or information? If you haven’t considered any of these questions it will be much harder to stay on track.
- What is your intention? Is it your goal or something you feel you are supposed to do (usually what you think you need to do based on someone else’s values). Your goals need to be your goals, not anybody else’s; you are much more likely to stay the course and succeed if they are internally driven.
- Is your goal one of practicing self-care and improving your health and wellbeing or is it driven by the need to punish yourself or bend yourself into something you are not in order to please other people? Consistent lifestyle changes require self-care, not constantly punishing yourself.
How about this year you forgive yourself for what you did or didn’t do in the past, let go of all the ‘musts’ and ‘shoulds’ and focus on what is right for you. What do you need to do to achieve the goals that are in alignment with your values?
New Year’s Resolutions are really just an opportunity to change habits to support your dreams and goals. Start by getting clarity on your values and what you want your life to look like, this is the information you will use to create your goals. This will ensure that you build your resolutions on solid ground rather than building them on a house of cards!
Fiona Kane, Nutritional Medicine Practitioner, Holistic Counsellor and Life Coach at the Informed Health Nutritional Wellbeing Centre