So one of your resolutions this year is around health? Research indicates that only 8% of people achieve their New Year’s goals. If you want to be in that 8% this year, read this:
One of the biggest reasons health resolutions fail is the “All or Nothing” mentality. I have heard many people say, “I will only do it if I can do it perfectly”. This is kind of convenient because you are human and you won’t be perfect. As soon as you perceive that you are no longer being perfect you can just stop!
This comes as a cost, when we do this over and over again, it feeds into the shame we have about being so flawed and imperfect and also creates the story of, “I always fail”. This is the story you take with you into every new attempt to improve your health. Can you see how this is a problem?
In a recent social media post on the New Year; the author Brené Brown said this: “the 2020 plan: stay awkward, brave and kind”. This is great advice, we are human; this means we are messy and imperfect, acceptance of this is essential for a good physical and mental health. It also means we need to be brave enough to do things imperfectly and kind enough to ourselves to accept that we are perfectly imperfect!
Failure is one of the building blocks to success, it is not proof that you are not worthy or terribly flawed. Ensure that your health goals are based on compassion and focus on practicing self-care.
Start by forgiving yourself for what you did or didn’t do in the past. New Year’s Resolutions are a great opportunity to change habits to support your dreams and goals, not another opportunity to add to the story of how flawed you are!
Fiona Kane, Nutritional Medicine Practitioner, Holistic Counsellor and Life Coach at the Informed Health Nutritional Wellbeing Centre